“Reaction of others mold us. Society gives you a role. Your friend gives you a role. Tell them they are a good listener, and they will become one.”

“Just ask a question and leave it at that. They will figure it out themselves. Leave your ego out of it.”

“Validate their life. Feel what they feel. What works is saying they are unique and on an adventure. But it is not a lie. They are unique. And they are on an adventure. Realization of that, or more like an illusion, is a great wall against the fear of death. Not being on an adventure destroys. Realization that you are on an adventure makes you adventurous. The fear of death is not having lived. If you lived, at some point you will want it to end. The eternity is hell. Temporariness gives it meaning.”

“They always needed to give me more than I give them for me to have a transient moment of believing they love me. Is it only because of how I was brought up? How much a person can love if he or she has been in the center of mother's existence? That dynamic cannot be without consequences. That love is not real love. That love comes from mother not having lived her life. For the inability to separate from child mother will employ many different manipulative strategies. The child will need to find a way to destroy the demon. Leaving and living completely independent solves it. They do not have a leverage now.”

“i seet it all, and yet, i am just another monkey.”

“and in this country, the only country, the country i was born in, i feel different. like in high school. the confident madman has fallen asleep now. it always does, here. deepest insecurities, stemming from those times, times of upbringing, come back. only after a few drinks, the madman awakens. this place evokes what is closer to the core. walls upon the walls, and here, i am closest to the king. how well can i challenge him?”

“through habituation it becomes more and more difficult for core forces to release their energy. the need for novelty is at play at every level. how do you treat, let's say, intense maladaptive sexual fantasies that make simple acts of sex (just penetration) not enough? you get used to things, and sub-personalities are as real as you (what is you? another topic), they get used to things as well. cut the stimulus for a while for homeostasis to occur. you get used to money, or travel, or whatever. you start wanting more. the ID gets used to simple sexual acts. complexities (fetishes) emerge as a result. another thing, when simple things are not satisfied, we create grandiose ideas about ourselves. what we do, sub-personalities do as well.”

“tease. annoy. it is playing. play.”

“you cannot get to the core reason for anxiety without a slow process. walls upon walls are build on top of that - on a core fear or a core desire. there will be many different wars.”

“A retarded high blind man told me "life is beautiful" while laughing.”